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Will You be Less Busy in the Future?

You: “Once I take care of this week’s unexpected chores, then I’ll have some breathing room.” Next week: “Hold my beer.” The “Yes … Damn!” Effect Tell me if this sounds familiar: You currently feel a little too busy, a tad overscheduled. Your to-do list feels a bit overwhelming. Someone asks you to do something in the near future that you either sort of want to do or kind of… Read More »Will You be Less Busy in the Future?

You Don’t Have to “Get It”

I have no idea what it feels like to be trans. I was born with a male body, and I’ve never felt like there was anything wrong with that. But I’ve also never felt like there was anything right about that. I don’t feel any sense of gender identity in my mind. But perhaps that’s because my gender and my biological sex are aligned. For a trans person, they must… Read More »You Don’t Have to “Get It”

Your Happiness Bucket

“For many of us in the industrialized world, happiness is directly related to how big the container is. … Get the bucket size right and your life changes.”1 How much do you need to be happy? How much does it take to fill your happiness bucket? Is your home enough? Your work? Your spouse? Your hobbies? Or are you constantly craving more or better? If your happiness bucket is tiny,… Read More »Your Happiness Bucket

Impatience is Irrational

Note: Like many of my posts, this is basically a letter to myself. “Wait like you’re early.” –Shane Parrish1 Patience has always been a struggle for me, but reading the phrase, “wait like you’re early,” unlocked something in my brain. I repeat it to myself when I’m stuck in traffic or at a red light, and it helps. Compare how you would act and how you would feel in the… Read More »Impatience is Irrational

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