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Chris Loper

When I’m like that, what do I need?

Last year, I wrote about the uncomfortable question we all need to be asking. Here’s a quick reminder: When someone displays some characteristic you don’t like or behaves in such a way that you’re tempted to judge them, ask yourself, “How am I that?” In almost every case, there’s some parallel characteristic or behavior that you occasionally display. This helps you be less judgmental and lets you use other people’s… Read More »When I’m like that, what do I need?

The Hidden Type of Perfectionism That’s Probably Holding You Back

Most people don’t self-identify as perfectionists. In their work, or when doing chores, or in their diets, they’re routinely satisfied with some version of “good enough.” But when these same people are offered a strategy to help with behavioral change, they frequently reject it for perfectionistic reasons, saying things like, “Oh I’ve tried that, and it didn’t always work.” My response is, “Yeah… But did it work some of the… Read More »The Hidden Type of Perfectionism That’s Probably Holding You Back

Minor Adjustments Add Up

You’ve probably heard of the Japanese concept of kaizen. It’s a pretty popular idea these days. Seriously, it’s my nephew’s middle name for Pete’s sake. For those of you who don’t know, kaizen means “continual improvement,”1 but it’s really more than that. Kaizen is a philosophy that says you can make enormous improvements over time by constantly finding very small ways to make things better. Kaizen is a unique way… Read More »Minor Adjustments Add Up

Why Behavioral Change Is Hard and What You Can Do About It

“If you do not change your direction, you will end up exactly where you are headed.” –Chinese proverb I talk a lot about behavioral change on this blog. I do this for two reasons: It’s really important. Becoming better is largely about what you do or don’t do. Whether or not you reach your goals usually comes down to what you do or don’t do. If you’re not happy with… Read More »Why Behavioral Change Is Hard and What You Can Do About It

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