This is a quick follow-up to last week’s article about the feedback loop that controls your life. At the end of that post, I emphasized the importance of choosing your behavior as a way of taking control of the emotion-thought-action feedback loop: The reason I gave is that directing your behavior is much easier than directing your thoughts, but there is also another reason: Actions speak louder than thoughts. You… Read More »Actions Speak Louder Than Thoughts
Our lives are controlled by three elements: emotions, thoughts, and actions. It’s easy to see how these elements matter. What we feel, what we think, and what we do are integral to who we are. What’s less obvious is how these elements interact. Your emotions, thoughts, and actions are connected to one another in a bi-directional feedback loop. Each element influences the others. Feeling a certain way causes you to… Read More »The Feedback Loop That Controls Your Life … And How To Master It
Becoming better is not about becoming better than other people. It’s about becoming better than yourself. The purpose of self-improvement is to create future selves that are more capable and more fulfilled than your present self. The goal is not to out-compete your peers. The goal is freedom. Unlike a sapling competing for sunlight in a dense forest, your growth does not need to be – and should not be –… Read More »Better than whom?
I believe that positive psychology is one of the most important branches of science to emerge in recent years – and also one of the most poorly named. When most people hear the words “positive psychology,” they immediately assume that it’s all about positive thinking, vision boards, and the “law of attraction.” I’d like to take a moment to set the record straight: Positive psychology is none of those things.… Read More »Positive Psychology: It’s not what you think it is.