I often write about self-perception – the idea that your brain is always watching what you do for clues about how to feel and what to think. This means your actions influence your thoughts and emotions just as much as the other way around. And in this dynamic, actions speak louder than thoughts, which is great because so many of our thoughts are unhelpful or just plain wrong. Thus, we… Read More »When No One Is Watching
A common question I get asked by coaching clients is, “What’s the best system for _______?” The blank is things like keeping track of your tasks, eating well, studying, and exercising. The answer is that there is no best system for anything. There are many good systems, but none are perfect. Which systems will work best for you depends on many factors, and you’ll sometimes need to adjust or replace… Read More »A System vs. The System
A Good Life is a Life of Struggle This is because struggle makes you stronger, and strength is the source of physical and psychological freedom. It’s obvious how struggling against heavy weights in the gym or struggling against a steep mountain while hiking makes you stronger – your muscles respond to such challenges by growing. What’s less obvious is how this principle applies to your mind. The brain is like… Read More »Struggle Makes You Stronger
In March of 2015, I was severely depressed. Actually, I had been down for a long time, but this was the worst it had ever been. There were many external reasons for this: I was single and lonely, I was working six days a week to barely afford a noisy apartment in a crummy neighborhood, and I was in constant pain from seven different injuries. To “deal” with my problems,… Read More »The Importance of Living with Integrity